(This article originally appeared in the TAU-USA Spring Issue #109)

by Francine Gikow, OFS

[1]” “ghosting[2],” and “gaslighting.[3]” Our society has become verbally and sometimes physically violent, disparaging and divided.

Unfortunately, since we are part of this society, it is too easy for us to fall into society’s mores and forget our own Franciscan values from our Rule: “…trusting in the presence of the divine seed in everyone and in the transforming power of love and pardon.[4]”

In his early rule, Francis outlined for us how the friars should go among the Saracens and other non- believers, and I believe it holds many lessons for Secular Franciscans living in our society: “One way is to not engage in arguments or disputes but to be subject to every human creature for God’s sake.”[5]

I believe there are three crucial points to consider from this initial way of going among the nonbelievers (or our enemies.)

Firstly, we must not engage in arguments or disputes. Arguing has never changed a person’s mind. In fact, it just solidifies the person’s thinking. I am reminded of the old saying, “the devil is in the details.” Yes, the evil one wants us to engage in detailed arguments and disputes, because he wants to sow doubt, anger, error, and chaos into the mix. He wants us to forget about seeing the “divine seed” in everyone and the transforming power of love and pardon.

Secondly, Jesus wants us to LOVE our enemies. He wants us to show His compassion and love to them. If we are so involved in our arguments and disputes that pushes out His love and the chance for a relationship with the other. It is in this relationship―the give and take―that God can enter into the process. It has been truly said: “Compassion is the most effective response to hatred and violence.[6]”

Finally, peace in our relationships takes humility: to be subject to every human creature for God’s sake and know and realize that it is not all about “me” but rather it is “all about us” …in Christ. We must meet the “other” as an equal brother or sister, without condescension, and with God’s compassion and love.

Remember the Peace Prayer? “Where there is hatred, let me sow love. Where there is injury, pardon, where there is doubt, faith… for it is in dying (i.e., to self) that we are born to eternal life.” Do we really mean what we pray and live accordingly?

I recently read the following, and it resonated within me.

“… we don’t really take Jesus seriously. We don’t love our enemies. We don’t turn the other cheek. We don’t forgive seventy times seven times. We don’t bless those who curse us.… We say: I am not a saint. We say: this Gospel stuff can’t be meant for everybody. We say: The Gospel is an ideal. But the Gospel is not merely an ideal.

For the followers of Christ, the Gospel is the Way.[7]

 PAX ET BONUM

[1] [Cancel culture] is often said to take the form of boycotting or shunning an individual… who is deemed to have acted or spoken in an unacceptable manner.

[2] Ghosting happens when someone cuts off all online communication with someone else, and without an explanation.

[3] the act of using psychological manipulation to get another person to question their own feelings, perception, or sanity

[4] OFS Rule, 2 #17.

[5] ER: XVI, 5-7.

[6]  Gerard Thomas Straub, OFS. The Sunrise of the Soul.” Brewster MA: San Damiano Books, 2020. p. 158

[7] Gerard Thomas Straub, OFS. p. 63.

https://www.secularfranciscansusa.org/2023/07/24/franciscan-living-how-to-go-among-the-saracens-in-our-lives/

The National Executive Council is pleased to announce the rolling out of our new national database starting in August 2023.

After more than two years of work, the Database Committee is ready to go live with this new tool.

Most of the persons responsible for entering information have been trained.  The old database will no longer be used.   To facilitate the transfer of information from the current database to the new one, the current database will not be available starting July 30, 2023.

This means changes can be made in the current database through July 29, 2023.

Once the new database comes up, the current database will be shut down permanently. The two databases will not be run in parallel. All data entry will be done on the new database. The Database Committee will notify everyone when the new database is populated and ready for use.

There have been 270 users set up on the system. We have held 18 training sessions, and the majority of users have been trained. We will continue periodic training sessions for the rest of the users identified by the Regional Ministers and for new users.

We want to thank the members of the Computer Committee who have been an integral part of the development team for the new database for their years of service and dedication in operating and maintaining the retiring database. Without their knowledge and expertise, we could not have delivered the new database.  Those members are: Bob Herbelin, Bill Mussatto, Cyl Maljan-Herbelin, and Patsy Phillipps.

Those attending Chapter will have a chance to ask questions about the new system.

https://www.secularfranciscansusa.org/2023/07/22/new-database-will-launch-in-august/